Saturday, February 1, 2014

Helping Children Find their Voice

Being a school psychologist in a public school has taken me on journeys of discovery that I never dreamt when I began decades ago.   One destination was learning about Selective Mutism.  It is a fairly rare disorder, about 1 in one thousand, characterized by speaking freely and comfortably in some situations, but remaining mute (sometimes looking frozen) in other situations and with certain people.  It has many aspects of a phobia, but you can’t do flooding therapy;  you can’t make someone talk until their anxiety subsides.  Sometimes children also have generalized social anxiety, sometimes not.  While helping those children and the time comes that a child finally talks to a teacher—it feels wonderful, a magical moment!  It has led me to become a state coordinator for the Selective Mutism Group of the Child Anxiety Network.  (a non-profit:  information at  http://www.selectivemutism.org/ )             

Through my work with many families, I have developed tools that help teachers reach out to students and help therapists treat children in the school setting.  I am offering them here


If you know a teacher or family struggling with behavior that looks something like Selective Mutism, please direct them to both the above URLs.  For just a few dollars they can have some of the materials that have assisted me in my work with these amazing kids.  One of my favorite moments was with a teacher who was asking about a child that we were treating together, who was now talking in class.  She asked me,  “Now he’s calling out his answers without raising his hand.  Do I say something to him?”   My answer is , “Yes, treat him like any other student in your class!”  That was our goal and his mother’s dream.